If you are writing a card when sending a gift to someone with a serious illness you may want to send a comforting thought with it. Following are some things to think about and some examples of things to say.
What to Say
Whether you are sending a card, a gift, or an email, sometimes it is hard to know what to say. You don’t want to use clichés or upset the ill person more. A few choice words can really brighten a person’s day and perhaps, if they are seriously ill, can give them hope of recovery.
Here are some appropriate words for a serious illness card that say “I am thinking of you”:
- If I had a flower for every time I thought of you, I would walk forever in my garden.
- I think about you constantly, whether it's with my mind or my heart.
- Until the sun comes out again for you, my umbrella is big enough for two.
- If knowing that someone cares helps the healing process......then you should be feeling better already.
The following quotes are a bit more philosophical and may help the seriously ill person deal with his illness. They will provide encouragement as well as comfort.
- What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us. - Ralph Waldo Emerson
- What the caterpillar calls the end of the world, the master calls a butterfly. - Richard Bach
- The soul would have no rainbow had the eyes no tears. - John Vance Cheney
- If the future seems overwhelming, remember that it comes one moment at a time. - Beth Mende Conny
- I have heard there are troubles of more than one kind; Some come from ahead and some come from behind.; But I've bought a big bat. I'm all ready you see.; Now my troubles are going to have troubles with me! - Dr. Seuss
- (Good to send with a flower gift) Here's a little bloom to brighten your room, And a little card to say God Bless you today!
Letters or Emails to Someone Who is Seriously Ill
Here are some thoughts that may help you write a good letter or email. You want to let them know that you are thinking about them and give them hope, comfort, and encouragement:
- Unfortunately hospital rules won't let me visit you in Intensive Care. But I want you to know that my thoughts and prayers are with you.
- I heard that you're going through chemotherapy? I'm sorry to hear that, but I hope that it won't be for long. I hope that you will soon regain some strength.
- Let me know when you feel up for visitors and I’ll come over.
- This must be a very difficult time in your life right now. I hope that the medications that the doctors are giving you are helping you feel better; and, that you get to return home soon. Remember, you are missed and that we all (I) care.
Now that you have some ideas of appropriate words for a serious illness card or letter, you may want to send or take a gift. Gift stores or floral shops have a collection of mugs, stuffed animals, plaques, or figurines that sometimes have inspirational words on them.
If the person has a terminal illness, you may consider talking to family members and friends and putting together a scrapbook of the person’s life. Not only would it give the person some memories to enjoy, but is something visitors could look at with him or her, as it is sometimes hard to think of things to say.
Should the ill person be looking at a long recovery or hospital stay, a well-chosen gift would be very appreciated. For example:
- Potted plant
- CDs and DVDs
- Membership to a movie service
- Bathrobe or slippers
- A visit from a beautician, barber or manicurist. A hair cut or pedicure can do wonders for your mood, even for guys - especially if they include reflexology with it. To find a professional to come to the home, you may want to inquire at local nursing homes or hospitals.
Whether you decide to send a card, a letter, an email or a gift, the important thing to remember is that you want to send a message of friendship and love.