Everyone at work occasionally has a bad day, or even a string of bad days; that's exactly the moment you can do a wonderful thing by offering encouraging words for co-workers. Sometimes your offer of support, your positive words, and your expression of sympathy may be just the thing they need to hear to keep from plummeting into the depths of despair.
It happens every so often. A co-worker has the bad luck to make a mistake, or to be singled out as the one who's going to take the fall for a group effort that didn't go over with management.
Some co-workers fear being around the victim, as if that taint of failure might slosh over onto them. That's bad form, but worse, it has a domino effect on everyone in the immediate group.
Don't turn your back on a fellow employee just because they made a mistake. Remember, you're all on the same team, and while it might be the next cubicle tenant's fault this week, it could be your turn to be singled out next week. You'll want someone to give you the kind of support in the near future that you give to your fellow employee today. No matter the circumstances, there are always positive things to say about a coworker.
Karma is a definite phenomenon in the workplace. Be there for your co-workers. They'll be there for you when it's your turn to need a sympathetic ear. Here's some sample wording to try out:
"Hey, let me take something off your plate. We're all on the same team anyway. Is that this week's report you're working on? I can do it for you."
"Remember last month when I was in a bind at five o'clock on Friday? Let me do something to help you out. What can I do for you?"
"Hey, we're all on the same team, man. Give me something off your plate that I can do for you right now. I'd be glad to help take the load off."
You know the routine. You work hard on a project, positive it's going well, and you'll get recognition for a job well done. Something happens, and it's not good. You miss a deadline, your boss got bashed by his boss, and as they say, manure runs downhill. This time, though, it's a co-worker who has gotten the booby prize, and she's taking it hard.
What can you say, particularly if you know her work really wasn't the best she could've done? Be honest - but not blunt. You won't be doing her a favor by adding to the general piling-on she's experiencing. Point out something good she did, like her dedication, her creativity, or her unfailing work ethic. In other words, before you go in with the vinegar, add a little honey to it to make it more palatable.
Fellow employees will take a difficult truth a little more easily if they think it's coming from someone interested in their welfare. Your co-worker may be competition for you, in some sense, but not everything in the world is about winning.
Sometimes it's just about being human. Give her your honest appraisal, but don't forget to tell her what she's doing right. No one becomes horrible overnight. Don't add to her low self-esteem by beating her up. Guaranteed she's probably doing a good job of that herself. What she could use, or what everyone in your group could do with, is some encouraging words from those around her.
You will all profit by the truth, leavened with some kindness and consideration. Here are some ways to offer gentle compliments for coworkers:
"Hey, girl. Don't beat yourself up. We've all gotten reamed out by the boss before. Don't worry; it happens to all of us."
"Just try to take the constructive criticism and put it behind you. There's nothing wrong with a small lesson from time to time. We all need the fine tuning."
"Listen. Take the constructive criticism and throw the rest in the trash can. The boss has already forgotten about it and moved on to his next task. Just keep your chin up and keep truckin' along."
It's five simple words. "I'm so grateful for you." But, that one simple line may mean the world to someone. Oftentimes, we feel like we're doing the right thing, helping others out, and it all goes unnoticed. Perhaps that's okay. Humility is the essence of life.
But, a few kind words that demonstrate your appreciation will not only make them feel good, but also establish a nice rapport between you two. Here are some top compliments for coworkers and words of appreciation:
"I can't thank you enough for taking over that report for me last week. I know you have a ton of work on your plate, so I'm extra grateful for you."
"You're such a good friend to me. Thank you for what you did. Expect a full plate of brownies on your desk tomorrow morning!"
"You know, a lot of people wouldn't have done what you did for me yesterday. Please know that I'm ever so grateful for you and, as soon as I can repay the favor, consider it done."
Not every source of pain or hurt for an employee is an issue with their job. Sometimes the trials and travails of everyday life just slosh over into the work sphere.
It's difficult to keep them separate, especially if the personal issue is a huge one: divorce, illness, death, problems with children or parents. They all add up and put a strain on the best of employees.
What should you say? Well, you may not want to cross over personal boundaries, particularly if the relationship you have with your co-worker has always been a purely professional one. You may like and respect one another, but that doesn't mean you necessarily are friends on your own time.
Even so, if the issue is one that's common knowledge, such as a death in the family, give your best and most heartfelt words of condolence to your co-worker. He won't be sorry to hear it. It's always a good thing to know that even the people you work with are human enough to care about the painful things that happen in private.
There is no such thing as being too kind or considerate of the people you work with. That kind of empathy can only bring your group closer together. Plain old human decency only greases the wheels of interaction, and makes it easier for everyone to get along, in private or public life.
The right encouraging words for co-workers, offered in a timely and concerned manner, can make the job go better for everyone. Here's a small sampling of ideas:
"Wow. Life sure has dealt you a tough hand. But, the good news is, I've seen you come through worse. Trouble like this doesn't last for long, my friend."
"I'm really sorry to hear you're going through such a hard time. Would you like to go out for a drink after work tonight? Let's see what we can do to help you take your mind off things for a little while."
"Man, I've been in your shoes before. I don't say that to minimize what you're feeling. I say that because I'm here to help you, however you need it. If you just need to talk, if you need help moving, whatever it is, I'm here. I mean it when I say call me any time."
"This place won't be the same without you," is a nice way to let someone know they'll be missed. If someone you've loved working alongside is leaving, remember to stay positive. Although you'll be sad to see them go, focus on their success. If they're leaving, they must've come upon an opportunity that's better in one way or another. Here are some encouraging words to send them off with:
"We're really going to miss you around here. You lit this place up with your smile and everyday pizzazz."
"Well, even though I'm sad to see you go, I'm also really excited for your future. This sounds like a wonderful opportunity."
"Please make sure you stay in touch! Email me! I'm going to be so excited to hear about how happy you are in the new place."
Wouldn't it be lovely if you were considered the workplace encourager? You don't have to lay it on thick. You just need to be a steady source of encouragement and joy. Hopefully some of these suggestions will help you achieve that goal.
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