Everyone needs encouragement sometimes, whether it's to bolster their spirits in a painful time or simply to remind them that they're valued. That goes double for family, friends and other loved ones. Choosing just the right words of encouragement to someone you love is a wonderful experience for both the speaker and the listener.
As cliche as it might sound, sometimes the words "I love you" can make a huge difference. Do you say them often enough? Do the people you love actually hear them from you? When you say those words, do you actually mean them?
In particular, those words mean the world when someone is suffering. Every crisis is easier to bear when you know you have caring people backing you up. They need to know you love them, and they need to hear it from you, even if you think, "They know that already."
Here are some phrases you can use to express that all-important sentiment:
Words of encouragement for love are important reminders that help people remember they're valuable. If you can't find the words yourself, don't be discouraged. Have a look at our article on how to show appreciation.
Showing thanks to a loved one can be done with deeds as well as words. Flowers or cards can go a long way, but so can a simple statement of gratitude. Giving words of encouragement and thanks to someone you love is an important way of recognizing all that they do for you.
"Thank you," "I appreciate you," and "I couldn't have done it without you" can be spoken remarks or encouragement love letters, but they all say the same thing: you were a vital part of something important to me, and I love you.
For sentiments to repurpose for your own use, why not try our words to show appreciation to volunteers?
Taking on a new challenge, or overcoming an old one, is always a struggle. Finding the right words to help can be too. When a loved one is taking on a challenge, they may complain or vent to you. If you can, try to avoid judging them and focus instead on being both positive and honest.
For example, take two phrases that could be used in the same situation: "This will pass. You and I know it will" and "Get over it! Stop being a baby!" In a literal sense, those phrases express the same idea. Both are, in a sense, honest. But the first is kind and the second is cruel. Encouragement through a hard situation needs to be both honest and kind.
Encouraging a loved one in the face of a challenge is an important kind of positive reinforcement. When you acknowledge the challenge, but also acknowledge the progress they're making and stating your faith that it will continue, you start a virtuous circle: positive behaviors elicit encouragement, which elicits more positive behavior. Stating your faith that the person you love will see it through will help them. If you believe it, so will they.
There's no harder situation than trying to keep up the spirits of a person in deep, real pain. In situations like the loss of another loved one or a frightening diagnosis, there's not much to do beyond being present and letting the pain happen. Grief is natural.
But it mustn't be forever. It's too easy to become lost in grief when you feel there's no future or no one cares what happens next. Connect with your loved ones with carefully chosen words: we can help with words for a loss and things to say at a funeral.
Remember the difference between kind and cruel, and make allowances for the fact that not everyone processes grief in the same way.
All of this advice fundamentally comes down to a simple instruction: remind your loved ones that you're present, that you care, and that they matter to you. Be kind when you're looking for the right words of encouragement to share with the one you love. You will find the right thing to say. Just put yourself in their place, and imagine how you'd feel if you were on the receiving end of your words.
If you need more guidance, we're happy to help. We have a whole collection of example words of appreciation that you can draw from.